2 months to Top Surgery

When I saw the date yesterday I was surprised it was 2 months until my top surgery takes place. It still feels like a lifetime away.
For me it has taken 43 year to get to this point, for others they think it's only 7 months (9 to surgery) since this became my reality. 
The truth of the matter is I should have come out years ago but I didn't have the courage to do so. By being my authentic self I have not only lost a wife, but friends along the way.
Yes it hurts like hell, yes I could have done things differently but I didn't and we are here. On a different path than how I imagined, but positive in how the future looks.

So what does top surgery mean for me. It means freedom from the chains of the binary I was born into. Freedom from part of my body I never felt the connection to. Freedom to be my authentic self.

I have had to get a huge loan to fund this, and thank those who have supported, it means so much. GoFundMe 

I am going to be taking pictures of progress monthly and will share on here. A content warning will be added so you can avoid if you wish.

The other thing I have to celebrate, amongst the trials that I am living, I was given the ok to start Testosterone, and I am attending the Gender Hormone Clinic the day before surgery to get my prescription. I'm so excited for my transition journey and what my exterior is going to become. #lifegoals

It's never too late 🫂🏳️‍⚧️

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