Happy 1st Birthday to me

One year since I started living as my authentic self and completed my deedpoll for name change.

A lot has changed in this last year, not just physically but mentally also. The surgery and hormone treatment have been amazing and seeing the ongoing changes to my body to become the male I have always been inside is amazing. For the first time in my life I feel at peace within.

Ok that may seem strange to some of you, or maybe not, but i knew I was not a girl at the age of 8 so it's taken a while to get to where I am. 
So what stopped me I hear you ask. Well apart from the negativity from adults around me when I told them , I began to believe what they said and the internal battles and transphobia began.
Yes I was transphobic, not to others but when I thought about myself I had feelings of disgust and hate because I had been taught I was wrong for feeling this way. It took a lot of processing and feeling in the right place mentally to take that leap of faith and be who I have always been.

The year has passed, not uneventfully, good and bad has been seen. My mental health struggled at times. I struggled to see my path. However, with the work I have done with myself, the support from Alex and friends I am so happy I made my 1st year and I'm celebrating, looking forward to many more years as CHé. 

I will never forget who I lived as, I don't regret my past. I have learnt that things happen when the time is right and at times it feels crap, but if we focus on what we need to learn, what are we being taught instead of 'oh my life is shit ' , then we open the doors the universe is taking us. Unless we learn we remain stuck, unless we change our mental attitude we won't grow, because we are not ready to.

I am becoming me more and more each day. The peace within is beautiful and I am loving being me.

I'm not saying things are easy, with the political hostility and hate towards the trans community it's scary at times, however I am not going anywhere, it's taken me far too long to come out, no one is putting me in the closet again.

So here's to a happy first birthday, I now have two birthdays like every king should have 🤣. Here's to many more .

Thanks one and all for your support. Keep being awesome and the ally's you are.

Love and Light 🫂🏳️‍⚧️

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